Unlocking the Hidden Language of Emotions: How Wearable Technology Can Help Us Understand Our Deeper Feelings

Many of us struggle to identify and name our emotions, particularly when we've experienced trauma, grew up in environments where emotions weren't acknowledged, or simply weren't taught the language of feelings. This challenge is especially prevalent among men, who often face cultural pressure to suppress emotional awareness, and individuals with insecure attachment patterns, who may have learned to disconnect from their emotional experiences.

But what if technology could help us bridge this gap in emotional awareness?

The Science Behind Our Emotions

Dr. Jaak Panksepp, a pioneer in affective neuroscience, identified seven basic emotional systems that all mammals share: SEEKING, FEAR, RAGE, LUST, CARE, PANIC/GRIEF, and PLAY (capitalized to distinguish them as specific systems). These systems operate largely beneath our conscious awareness, yet they profoundly influence our behavior, relationships, and well-being.

Here's where modern technology offers a fascinating possibility: while we may not consciously recognize when these systems activate, our bodies tell the story through measurable physiological changes.

How Wearable Technology Can Help

Today's wearable devices can track various physiological markers that correlate with emotional states:

• Heart rate variability (HRV) patterns can indicate stress, fear, or social engagement

• Skin conductance changes can signal emotional arousal

• Movement patterns can reveal seeking or play behaviors

• Sleep disruptions might indicate activation of the panic/grief system

• Temperature variations can correlate with emotional states

For someone who struggles to identify their emotions, these biological markers can serve as objective signals that something significant is happening internally.

Real-World Applications in Therapy

Consider Mark (name changed), a client who reported feeling "fine" despite significant life challenges. His wearable device showed patterns of decreased HRV and disrupted sleep, typical indicators of an activated FEAR or PANIC/GRIEF system. This data provided an entry point for deeper therapeutic exploration, eventually helping Mark recognize and process feelings of abandonment he'd been unconsciously suppressing.

Particularly Valuable For:

1. Trauma Survivors

• Many trauma survivors experience alexithymia – difficulty identifying and expressing emotions

• Wearable data can help them reconnect with their bodies' signals

• Provides objective validation of their emotional experiences

1. Men and Emotional Awareness

• Cultural conditioning often disconnects men from emotional awareness

• Technology offers a "concrete" way to approach emotional exploration

• Data-driven insights can feel more accessible than abstract emotional concepts

1. Insecure Attachment Patterns

• People with insecure attachment often struggle to trust their emotional experiences

• Wearable data can provide a "secure base" for emotional exploration

• Helps build confidence in identifying and expressing feelings

Practical Implementation

While consumer wearables can't definitively identify specific emotional systems, they can track important indicators:

• Basic smartwatches can monitor heart rate and sleep patterns

• More advanced devices can track HRV and skin conductance

• Regular patterns in this data can help identify emotional triggers and responses

Using This Information in Therapy

1. Emotional Pattern Recognition

• Review device data during therapy sessions

• Identify correlations between physiological patterns and life events

• Develop awareness of personal emotional signatures

1. Building Emotional Vocabulary

• Use device data as a starting point for discussing feelings

• Connect physiological states to emotional experiences

• Develop more nuanced emotional awareness

1. Validation and Support

• Objective data can validate emotional experiences

• Helps overcome shame or doubt about emotional responses

• Supports the development of self-trust

Important Considerations

While wearable technology offers exciting possibilities for emotional awareness, it's important to remember:

• Technology supplements, but doesn't replace, therapeutic work

• Individual patterns vary significantly

• Data should be interpreted within the broader context of a person's life

• Privacy and data security should be carefully considered

Moving Forward

As wearable technology continues to advance, its potential for supporting emotional awareness grows. For therapists and clients alike, these tools offer a new bridge between the unconscious emotional systems Panksepp identified and our conscious experience.

By combining traditional therapeutic approaches with the insights provided by wearable technology, we can help people – especially those who struggle with emotional awareness – develop a deeper understanding of their emotional lives and build more satisfying relationships with themselves and others.

The journey to emotional awareness may be complex, but with these new tools, we have additional pathways to understanding our deeper selves.

Navigating Emotions: Understanding, Reacting, and Healing

It's a common tale: folks beating themselves up over their emotions and casting judgment on others for theirs. But here are two key points that could really help tackle this issue:

First off, feelings aren't a menu we pick from; they're automatic responses to our experiences. We can't choose what we feel, but we can choose how we react to those emotions. That's a lifelong skill, one that takes practice every day.

Secondly, what we feel isn't just about the present; it's also influenced by our past experiences. Our brains are wired to be efficient, always referencing past situations to inform our current feelings. But sometimes, especially in cases of trauma, what we remember isn't a solution, it's a coping mechanism. Coping doesn't let safety responses complete; it bypasses them, potentially causing more issues down the line.

So, how do we deal with all this? Well, judgment isn't the answer; it only makes things worse. Instead, we need empathy, compassion, and a mindfulness practice (and maybe some trauma therapy) to help us understand our emotions better and decide if our responses are the ones we want.

Navigating the Depths of Human Emotions: Understanding, Adapting, and Processing

Human Emotions
Emotions are both simple and complex, residing at the core of our human experience. At their essence, our brain houses seven fundamental emotional systems, intricately connected to our body's nervous system, giving rise to our basic emotional responses. These seminal emotions, as elucidated by pioneering affective neuroscientist Jack Penksepp, encompass lust, anger, excitement, panic, grief, fear, care, and joy. Antonio Damassio, another prominent neuroscientist, posits that emotions serve as feedback mechanisms, gauging our survival status. In essence, they are signals, indicating the sustainability and safety of our bodies, relationships, and environment, and guiding us on adaptive behaviors for survival.

However, uniquely as humans, we possess the neo cortex, a cognitive domain enabling us to override and suppress our primal emotions. This cerebral region facilitates higher-order functions like reasoning, reflection, and planning. Yet, when we stifle our emotions to conform to societal norms — refraining from reacting aggressively when provoked by our boss or withholding tears in public places — we inadvertently obstruct our access to their inherent wisdom and guidance.

Running in the Waves: A Lesson in Emotion and Adaptation
When my son was around five years old, we went to the beach on a family vacation. He was enjoying playing in the surf with his older cousin. With each rush of crashing waves, he'd dart into the water, only to be knocked over and then hurriedly return to my side. His little hand would reach out, seeking reassurance, before running back to rejoin his cousin's antics. What was going on? The force of the waves (and the sound of them) along with the brief moments submerged underwater scared him which signaled to him the potential danger of the situation. In order to adapt to survival he sought solace in my presence, finding comfort in the care and strength I offered. With this reassurance, he would gather the courage to venture back into the waves, joining his cousin in play. Without my presence, he would have been compelled to find alternative ways to confront his fear, perhaps abandoning the water altogether or suppressing his emotions (of not only fear but panic as well when he didn’t have an attachment figure to connect to), enduring a tense, disconnected experience. Such suppression could have left him with unresolved energy, hindering his ability to fully engage with his surroundings until addressed.

Summary

At the end of the day we have to acknowledge and honor our emotions, both primal and societal, without judgment. While it's essential to temper our instinctual reactions to practice love and maintain social harmony, we mustn't neglect the importance of acknowledging and processing our emotions in safe spaces, allowing them to complete their natural course. Emotions, akin to balloons, inflate with tension, urging us to take action in order to release the tension and restore equilibrium. In confronting anti-social impulses, rather than condemning them, we should approach them with empathy and support, facilitating their resolution in a nurturing environment.

Something you didn’t know about emotions

Emotions are like the thermostat in your home or the temp in your body. They have a set point and they have limits for how little or much they can be. When they move outside of those limits is when we feel them. When we feel them is when they begin to put a demand on us to do something to relieve the emotional tension. Since emotions tell us about the health of our body, environment and relationships these actions have something to do with helping us adapt for surviving and thriving in the moment. For example, when you feel sad you are tasked to acknowledge that you lost something important and to grieve through crying, slowing down and seeking comfort. In doing that you truly adapt to the loss and set yourself up for living beyond it well. So the ultimate goal of feelings is to make you adapt so that you don’t feel much. For more on this look at the work of Dr. Mark Solms, Dr. Jaak Panksepp and Dr. Antonio Damasio.

The three pillars of mental health change

Memory, Completion & Mindfulness are the three pillars for deep and lasting change in mental health and the thing that ties them all together is emotions.

Memory

Our brains love to automate tasks to save energy. But sometimes, in tough situations like trauma, the solutions we learn aren't really solutions at all. Instead, we cope to get through. While coping helps us survive, it doesn't fix things. Our brains then remember this coping as the solution. So, when similar situations arise, our brains automatically activate this coping mechanism. This means we feel and react the same way we did during the trauma. Luckily, memories can change. By recalling and feeling them, they change back into a form where we can alter how they affect us*. This is crucial for changing trauma reactions, whether from past hurts or sudden shocks.

Completion

When we feel threatened, our instincts kick in with fight, flight, or freeze responses. But often, these responses don't get a chance to finish. All that energy gets stuck in our bodies, waiting to be released. Releasing this pent-up energy is essential for our nervous system to regain its balance. This can lead to improvements in anxiety and depression.

Mindfulness

Mindfulness helps us distinguish between the present and the past. It allows us to observe tension without reacting impulsively. By practicing mindfulness, we can slow down and become our best selves. This skill improves with practice and repetition.

Emotions tie all these elements together. They start as physical sensations and evolve into conscious feelings like fear, joy, or anger. Emotions tell us how important a moment is for survival and give us insight into our current state of being.

In conclusion, memory, completion, and mindfulness are vital for deep and lasting change in mental health. By understanding and working with our emotions, we can unlock new levels of well-being and resilience.

*This process is called Memory Reconsolidation and it became known widely from the lab of the famous neuroscientist Joseph Le Doux It was his student Karim Nader who discovered this.