Understanding Your Body's Alert System: A Guide to Feeling Safer in Everyday Life
Ever notice how your body reacts when you open a stressful email or get into an argument? That racing heart, those tense shoulders - these aren't random reactions. They're part of your body's natural alert system called the threat response cycle, and understanding this system can change your life in wonderful ways.
Ever notice how your body reacts when you open a stressful email or get into an argument? That racing heart, those tense shoulders - these aren't random reactions. They're part of your body's natural alert system called the threat response cycle, and understanding this system can change your life in wonderful ways.
Your Built-In Safety System
Think of your body as having a special safety alarm, an instinct for safety. Just like our ancestors needed this alarm to stay safe from wild animals, we use it today in our modern world. This system kicks in when:
Reading a difficult email
Sitting through a tense meeting
Having a disagreement with someone you love
Walking into a crowded restaurant
Even chatting with a friend when a sensitive topic comes up
The Threat Response Cycle
Why Understanding This Matters
When you know how your alert system works, you gain a superpower: the ability to pause and check if you really need to be on high alert. Sometimes your alarm might go off when you're actually safe, like feeling panicked about giving a presentation to friendly colleagues. Other times, you might not notice real warning signs when you should, like staying in an unhealthy situation for too long.
Taking Back Control
The good news? Once you recognize when your alert system is active, you can:
Take a moment to pause
Look around and check if there's a real reason for concern
Choose how to respond rather than just react
Return to feeling calm and present when you realize you're safe
This awareness helps you move through your day with more peace and confidence. Instead of being controlled by automatic reactions, you can choose how to respond to life's challenges.
Remember: Your alert system isn't your enemy - it's trying to protect you! Learning to work with it, rather than against it, can help you feel more in control and at peace in your daily life.
Finding Peace Through 'Attention Out': A Simple First Step to Feeling Better
When you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed, your first instinct might be to dive deep into your thoughts and feelings. While this is completely natural, there's actually a gentler way to begin your healing journey. It's called "attention out," and it's simpler than you might think.
In another post we talk about attention In. In this post we’ll talk about attention out.
When you're feeling overwhelmed or stressed, your first instinct might be to dive deep into your thoughts and feelings. While this is completely natural, there's actually a gentler way to begin your healing journey. It's called "attention out," and it's simpler than you might think.
What is "Attention Out"?
Think of your attention like a flashlight. You can shine it inward (on your thoughts, feelings, and body sensations) or outward (on the world around you). Both are important, but learning to focus outward first can help you feel more grounded and safe.
Why Start with Looking Outward?
When you first come to counseling, you might want to jump right in and talk about everything that's troubling you. That's completely normal! But starting with "attention out" first is like giving your mind a gentle reset button. It helps your body recognize that right now, in this moment, you're safe.
How to Practice "Attention Out": A Simple Exercise
Here's a simple practice called "orienting" that you can try right now. Orienting is a part of a larger instinct for safety called, the threat response cycle.
Find a comfortable spot to sit
Let your eyes wander naturally around your surroundings
Notice what catches your attention - maybe it's a color, a shape, or an object
Don't worry about why something catches your eye - just let your gaze move freely
Try to set aside your thoughts for a moment and just focus on what you see
What You Might Experience
When you practice this, you might notice some natural changes:
Your breathing might become deeper
Colors might seem brighter
Your body might feel more relaxed
You might feel more present in the moment
These are all signs that your body is finding its natural balance.
Why This Works
Your body has a natural ability to heal and find balance. Sometimes it just needs a little help remembering how. "Attention out" is like giving your nervous system a gentle reminder that it can relax and reset (Levine, 1997; 2010).
Remember: This might feel strange at first, and that's okay! Like any new skill, it takes practice. The key is to be patient with yourself as you learn this new way of finding calm.