The Art of Setting a Boundary: In Parenting, Relationships, and at Work

A few years ago, "boundaries" escaped the clinical world and landed in everyday conversation. On balance that's been a good thing. A lot of people found language for something they'd been living without words for: their own limits, their own identity, their right to protect their energy and time. But when a concept goes wide, it tends to lose nuance. What I see now is the word being used as a weapon rather than a tool, a way of managing or punishing others rather than honestly describing oneself. A boundary delivered as a verdict is not a boundary in any clinically meaningful sense. It's a wall dressed up in therapeutic language.